Having said that, I think that this concept, which is also valid, is now being distributed a little too liberally, without much critical thinking. Never taking things personally looks beautiful in theory, but it is also too easy. There are things missing in this conversation: it is important to explore the full range of this chord and look for nuances, rather than just participate blindly. That`s what I`m going to try to do with this article. In a way, don Miguel Ruiz`s principles remind me of cognitive behavioral therapy: become aware of negative chords (negative automatic thoughts), replace them with positive thoughts. We become scientists who can notice the dark movements in our minds and redirect them accordingly. But this approach has its limits, and after decades of popularity, cbT principles are beginning to show their own weaknesses. Perhaps one of the reasons is that much of what we feel and do comes from the unconscious mind, far below reason. We don`t really understand what`s going on in us. As such, there is no guarantee that a new set of positive thoughts and attitudes (“it`s not personal,” “I can choose to listen to that person or not,” “it`s about them, not me”) works, that it`s strong enough to reverse hidden and misunderstood traumas and emotions. Our mind is not an object that we can observe and control cold.

And your problems, whatever they may be (anxiety, depression, low self-esteem…) may have nothing to do with taking things in person or not. Although we know that most assumptions are unfounded, we often continue to give them the weight of complete agreements. Why not try to break one of the hundreds or thousands of agreements you have now? Maybe you`re thinking you`re not good at painting — break the watercolors and have fun creating something. By gradually continuing the process, you can change things gradually for the better. But not if we stop telling our truth. I do not think that is the answer we are trying to silence each other or ourselves at this critical moment in history. One of the most important teachings of wisdom in the Toltec tradition is that we all dream — to dream of a unique vision and experience of the universe. It`s at the beginning of “The Four Accords,” and my experience is that a lot of people slip into that part and go to the chords. Nor should they use words against themselves. Let them say nothing that is pejorative, self-critical or self-critical. Besides, you`re always grateful to talk. “The next three agreements really came from the first agreement.

The second agreement is nothing to take personally. If I have to name four betrayals that I usually do to myself, will they be? I interpreted “is” as living in the present and “was” the representation of past behaviors. Tension change probably intentionally. The best way to develop knowledge is to bypass other evaluations and read the material and develop your own knowledge. Because I also look at topics in relation to me My opinion is that we all get something different from any book, based on completely different emotional reactions, based on the observations of a group that reads all four chords at the same time.